I truly believe we are the makers of our destiny.. Well, maybe not entirely, but we surely are dealt the cards and we get to choose whether or not to play them or change them, we get different paths and chose the one we want to follow.. So we get our options from the universe and we choose which one we would like, so you could say we play the biggest part in our destiny.
Sometimes we believe our lives are just terrible, and that nothing could go worse.. but you see, once again, we are the ones that choose our path, our present and future. You could either lay in your bed and cry about how terrible everything is OR you could just swim back up to the surface and take a new breath (always think about the alternative).
Sometimes things really look crappy but i do like to believe how everything happens for a reason, i do believe we can always make the best out of every sad day, anger, fight, and so on. I do believe it is our choice to stay miserable or look for the silver lining, the bright side, and just put on a smile and go on.
Sometimes we think we know where we will be in 5 years, but the truth is it is only based on what you want today, maybe tomorrow you would like something different and re-evaluate where you want to go, who you want to be. Do we REALLY know where we will be in our future? sometimes we just think we do, and the universe opens complete different doors and we end up doing something completely different then what we expected.
The important part of all this is to always remind ourselves that our time wasn't lost. Just because you worked for something and in the end it didn't work out, doesn't mean that it was all a waste, always look for what you gained in that time and i assure you you WILL find something. You always gain something positive, whether it was experience, growth, new friends, visited new places, did something you thought you would never do, tried something you thought you would never try.. Not all is a loss just because you fell..
All you have to do is get back up, look at the cards, and pick a new play.
-E
I guess that when we meet new people, what we really get to see is a facade.. we show people what we want to show, we create some kind of facade.. a front wall where we paint our qualities and our good side (well because why would we enjoy showing around strangers our problems and fears?), even if they are not strangers, if you don't want to be asked what's wrong all the time then.. facade it is.
So when we look at it that way.. when we meet someone we like, our "love at first sight" or how ever you like to call it, what we fall in love with is actually something that is not, something that that person wants us to see, what that person thinks would be best for you to see, because who would want to show all the bad things right away?
I'm guessing that's why the first part of a relationship is always beautiful.. because we are showing each other what we painted on that wall, all the pretty colors, all the good things we have done and what we want to be and where we want to go, our visions, our believes, what we like to do, how we like to please our partner and try new things, and so on..
That's why later on in a relationship comes the good stuff, when we start showing who we truly are.. (Don't get me wrong it's not that the good stuff isn't part of us it's just that it's not all we have to show and offer).. The wall comes down, no more facade, you open the door and there comes our flaws.. I believe that's when the true test for true love begins.
That's why i believe true love is about accepting, not about wanting what you saw in the beginning, what you saw at first IS part of that person, but it is not ALL that person is, so falling in love only with a facade is not falling in love at all, it is wanting something you think is perfect when the truth is.. no one is perfect..
Love each other with facade mode on and wall down mode, virtues and flaws, accept the flaws and love as a whole.. we all deserve to be loved for all that we are..
And ALWAYS respect yourself enough to know you deserve the very best.
-E
